Romans 12:14 Bless them which persecute you: bless and curse not.
Romans
12: 19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but give place unto
wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the
Lord.
The passage I read yesterday showed me how I've been such a hypocrite. I teach my children that they need to forgive those who wrong them. To always treat a person how they themselves want to be treated and not as the other person is treating them. Yet, here I have been harboring hatred in my heart for another. Some might say I'm justified. But I am not. If all the world was an eye for an eye, we would all be blind. This is where the saying, "Kill 'em with kindness" truly comes from.
I still feel the loss. Her picture hangs in my stairwell and I see it multiple times throughout the day, every day. A reminder of what is no longer here. A relationship that is gone forever. But I have finally accepted the way things are. I might feel anger at times. He's still out there, probably abusing another elderly persons kindness. But I know. Whether you believe in karma or in God, the truth is there. What goes around does come back around. Evil doers will reap their evil deeds rewards one day. I might not see it with my own eyes. Maybe it won't come in the way I wanted, but they will be punished.
Instead of holding on to the anger and hatred. I think it is time to take the high road. While I won't let someone continually repeat offenses against me and my family, I will be more loving towards someone who does me wrong.
Romans 12:20-21 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in doing so thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
Well said. Everyone can learn to let hard things go and 1 day realize they have become the good person they have always admired. Your grandma was that way.
ReplyDeleteThat she was. And I am trying to be the same.
DeleteWe never heal from loss and I don't think that you were wrong feeling the way you did. My grandma was taken away by the incompetence of a hospital. I don't know who, I don't know names... but I know she is not here anymore because of them.... and I can't forget...
ReplyDeleteOne can never forget. But we can forgive and move on. We can know that what goes around will come back around on them.
DeleteI am sorry to learn that you have been in pain for almost 8 years of torture of your ex-husband. Who will ever forget such experience? Easy said not not as easy to be in practice. I have a good read about your struggle.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Kumamon!
DeleteWow. Well said. I don't think we truly heal from a loss we just learn how to deal with it but there are just some things you cannot forget. I really feel this post.
ReplyDeleteExactly. As long as we can cope and move on.
DeleteSuch a positive message to share to everyone. Often times, it's easier to focus on the bad rather than look for the good things that life has brought us. We have to learn to change that and be the better person.
ReplyDeleteYes, ma'am! Hard to be the better person at times, but always worth the effort.
Delete<3 There is a huge difference between forgiveness and allowance. I think you've nailed it here.
ReplyDeleteThere is! It is hard for some to understand.
DeleteThis was a powerful message and an important one to. I am a firm believer in love over hate, I try and let go of my anger towards people because I think actions that make me angry reflect them as a person more than me.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Elizabeth!
DeleteThat is a life lesson that we learn with time and experience, the sooner the better, means less pain. Instead of holding on to the anger and hatred, it is less painful to forgive and forget sometimes.
ReplyDeleteYes, Preet. That is very true.
DeleteThanks for sharing this insightful, reflective post. It is been said that anger is like a poison you take hoping the other person parishes. Releasing anger is the best way to free yourself& and move on. 💝 Blessings xo
ReplyDeleteAnger is a poison. And I hope everyone who reads is encouraged to let go.
DeleteThis is so powerful and insightful post. sometimes we can not avoid being angry with someone but we should avoid this because it reflects on the recognition of other people and makes us feel so bad.
ReplyDeleteGetting angry initially is human. But to hold on to it is where we go wrong.
DeleteYou are a person of great courage! It takes faith and courage to keep trying to live by the Lord's word once we have suffered a big injustice. Many people leave the path of faith after such hard times, I admire and encourage your determination to live by your faith!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Natalia. It is very hard to stay the course!
DeleteA great insightful post. It's sometimes hard to avoid being angry with someone not sure about others but certainly for me. Which makes me feel bad.
ReplyDeleteAs long as we don't hold on to that anger.
DeleteIt seems that you've gone through a lot. Being angry is natural but it can become a problem when it takes over your life. I'm glad that you found coping strategies to deal with this.
ReplyDeleteYes, it can take over. Until we cope. Thank you.
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