Do you always struggle to "find time"? It seems like that is the common theme among most bloggers. Mostly the Moms. You know what? I don't want to find time. I want to stretch my time. I feel like I need to make my time last longer. I need to rearrange my time. My goals, my priorities, my tasks... so often, they don't get done or not done when I wanted to have them done.
I have read so many tips on how to make everything fit. Still, I struggle. Let's face it. I have a loose Monday-Friday schedule that keeps me going with the kids school schedule. I have a from the kids leaving until the kids get back schedule that I sorta manage. I have things that need to get done daily, weekly, monthly. Yet, I feel like I don't get everything accomplished as I should. So I do what any rational woman would do in my place. I stress. Yes, I fret over it. Tell my husband that I haven't completed my to-do list. Tell him I can't nap when the baby does, even though she kept me up all night, because there is stuff to get done! His answer? "You always overdo it anyhow. Take a morning or afternoon off."
Not what I always want to hear, but so calming nonetheless. I make a list of things I want or need to get done. Sometimes I avoid doing certain tasks because they are annoying and I really don't want to until I have nothing else left to do. Then I give myself the kick in the pants I deserve. "Don't put off for tomorrow, what can be done today." "We are not guaranteed tomorrow, so live for today." Ever hear these? It is motivation to me. To step it up. To stop being "too tired". How many times do you use that excuse? That is all it really is. An excuse.
Although, I will admit... There are days I should take a nap, but I tell myself to push and get another chore or task out the way while the baby sleeps. Even if she kept me up all night the night before. Even if I was tossing and turning in pain. Even if the dreams that plague my mind make my sleep a very restless one. And I think I've come to the conclusion that I'm wrong in doing so. You see, I get cranky when I don't sleep. And it hit me. I'm acting just like my toddler when I refuse to take a nap because I feel the urge to complete something else in the meantime. Kids fight sleep. So do adults. We just beat ourselves up over it to get away from it.
So I'm stepping up to the plate and I want to do this right. I'm going to prioritize. The things that absolutely need to get done. They will be done. No more putting it off. No more excuses. At the same time, I'm not going to over fill my time either. Things can be stretched out. Errands? Run them, but make it one per day. Days fly by when you run around all over town. So take it one thing at a time. And as needed. This is going to be my new way of passing the weeks. No more will I stress about going everywhere in one run. I end up with headaches and something is always lost in the mix.
When it comes to home, I'm taking it easy there too. I met another Mom in their neighborhood who talked about quitting her job to be a stay at home Mom. At first, she had the ambitions of doing everything we think we should do when we stay at home. And like all of us soon learn, she ran ragged. You just can't. You can't set your standards so high. I call it the TV show Mom syndrome. We see the perfect, prim moms on TV. They have a spotless house, drive a nice car, kids are well behaved, and the husband comes home to a hot meal and a well-dressed wife. They don't exist. Not unless they have a nanny or maid. Or both. In reality, I think we should satisfy ourselves to having a clean kitchen and getting 1-2 things scratched off the to-do list. If we can be happy with that, I have a hunch we would all feel a lot better.
Which one do you relate to? And what tips do you have for time?