Wednesday, March 2, 2016
Discouragement is only a state of mind
The sales business world is a fast-paced highway. One that we have to keep up or be left behind on. Whether you are working in an office or working face to face with your customers, you have to keep upbeat and ready to take to the fast lane. I’m used to working one-on-one in person with people. I can handle that with ease. Even though I’m an introvert, I can still find ways to connect and get over my anxiety of strangers.
My job is challenging me to step out of my comfort zone and learn to connect via phone calls and emails. There isn’t a face attached to the name. There isn’t always a voice to that name either. I’m calling complete strangers to talk about my services, but I have to do so in a way that benefits them and not me. Conflicted about this, I do feel. Cold calls are the worse. I’m calling someone who might know nothing about my company. I’m pitching them information about my services. 9/10 times, I don’t even get an answer. I get a voicemail. It’s impersonal, cold - just a machine. How do I tackle this one?! My supervisor and manager have been helpful in assisting me with coaching’s on a great script. Clearly and concisely, I can deliver my points and try to slip in something personal. But still. When you get so many voicemails, you feel like a recording. And then when those who actually answer the calls are saying they have no need for you and know no one else they can refer you to… It gets discouraging. You have to find the will to keep calling. To keep trying. To keep going after cold leads. After about 10 calls, I am ready to quit. According to a recent Dale Carnegie training I took, I have to have a goal. I also need an enemy. A reason to keep pushing forward regardless of what it looks like or what is said about what I do. I have a few tactics. I tell myself that these dead calls could come back fruitful in a month. Or I look at the pictures hanging on my cubicle wall of those I work hard to provide for. I have goals. To own a large enough home for my kids to have their own individual rooms. I plan to be financially independent so that I don’t have to rely on assistance from anyone, but can instead be the one giving to others in need. My enemy? Don’t laugh, but I use my ex-husband as my enemy. I tell myself that I will show him that I don’t need him, his money, and that I will never be some doormat to him ever again.
So back to my title. It’s a state of mind when you feel bogged down. You have to tell yourself you will succeed. That everything you are doing is going to work out for the better. Nothing you put your hands and mind to is failing. It is merely looking for that loophole to success. You can fall into a slump. But you better remind yourself to get up out of that rut and get back to work. Kick yourself in the pants or ask someone you trust to kick you. Otherwise you are bound to fail. Trick your mind into seeing the future you want and push on. Its there for the taking.
Friday, February 26, 2016
Give Grace to those who give you Grief
I’ve been reading Facing Your Giants by Max Lucado. My
bosses wife and dear friend sent it to me. She knows I have been facing several
of my giants in a very intimate way. And she knows that I need encouragement
from time to time. I’ve barely gotten into it. It is my go-to on breaks at work
or during down time (like when the work system crashes for a while). But even as little as I have read, I have
found such meaningful things to ponder.
The chapter I am reading now is about giving grace to those
who give me grief. This is a huge deal in my life right now. My ex-husband,
whether he is doing it on purpose or not, gives me so much grief. From being
stupid and wrecking every vehicle he drives to putting me down to not lifting a
finger for his kids’ needs… It can be so frustrating for me at times. We were
married for over seven years before I decided I’d had enough and filed for
divorce. I’ve been so relieved by such a choice, despite the strains that come
with my decision.
Despite being divorced, however, we came to the agreement
that we would stay living together since we were in a lease together and
neither of us wanted to pay or break the lease. In hindsight, that was a
mistake on my part. So much stress and arguing came after. I’ve bent over
backwards for him. Let him call the shots with several of the divorce points,
kept him in the loop with what I am doing, was even still doing his laundry and
making his dinners. And to him… it was like I was still under his control. If I
didn’t hang his shirts straight out the dryer, he yelled at me. If his plate
wasn’t made in the fridge when he woke up, he complained. I started dating
someone else. And this guy kept telling me to stand up. To stop doing for the
ex. Stop letting him use me as his doormat. I made excuses. Let’s face the facts
– I’m too nice to even my enemies. I let people walk all over me. I claim that it’s
my southern upbringing that drives me to be kind and that my religious
upbringing has instilled in me the thought of “turning the other cheek” every
time someone does me wrong. We are to forgive 70 x 70 times, right? Does this
mean I take abuse every time? No. Does it mean I have never stood up for myself
and for others? No. In the past couple of years, I have grown a strong backbone
again. I have established my dominate side. I know what I want. I know how to
get it. And I’m not letting anyone get in my way anymore. Well… I get in my own
way at times, but that is another story.
So getting back into the book, Facing Your Giants. I came
across this statement, “Once again, we think about the purveyors of pain in our
own lives. It’s one thing to give grace to friends, but to give grace to those
who give us grief? Could you? Given a few uninterrupted moments with the Darth
Vader of your days, could you imitate David?” (pg. 46)
My Darth Vader, my Saul, my Timothy McVeigh – he destroys my
happiness, he seeks to kill my joys in his jealous rage, he blows up my plans
for a better future. I can’t begin to count the times that I have thought, why?
Why are you like this? Why do you do these things to me? Why are you so evil? I
tell him that I don’t care how he feels. I don’t care what happens to him in
the future. But I still wash his clothes. I still buy him food. Or grab printer
paper when I’m doing my shopping. To some people, I’m too patient. I’m too
nice. According to some, I should slip something into his food and drinks.
Maybe I should put something on his clothes to give him an uncomfortable
feeling. Will I do this? Most likely no. I want to. Not gonna lie. I want him
to feel something of what I feel on a daily basis when he is around. But I won’t
do anything. Its not me. I smile to my enemies. I might scare them with that
smile, but it’s still a smile. The next thing that this passage of the book
says is this, “Some people are graced with mercy glands. They secrete
forgiveness, never harboring grudges or reciting their hurts.” Call me
arrogant, but I think this is me. I don’t hold the past against anyone. I will
never hold your mistakes against you when my own haunt me. We are human and our
mistakes are how we learn and grow. And I am growing my patience daily with my
ex .
There is one thing I want to point out though. Some people
think I hold grudges because I cut people off. I block them from my personal
life. Well, they are wrong. There is one thing I have learned over the years –
forgive as you are forgiven, but don’t stand there and take the same abuse for
the rest of your life. That saying “turn the other cheek”, for me, means that
you can hurt me once and I will forgive you and let you try again. You can hurt
me again once I’ve turned my other cheek to you. But after this second hurt,
you will be forgiven and let go. I won’t stand there switching cheeks for
continual abuse. You can tell when someone is truly learning from their
mistakes. When they genuinely want to change and be the better person. They
will do everything they can to never fall into that pattern again. Not everyone
is like this. And you have to step up and say enough is enough. You have tried,
you have forgiven. Now it is time to move on. And that is what I do. You can
keep making your mistakes. But you won’t be making them towards me anymore. I
am fiercely loyal to friends and family. I will lay down my life for those I
hold dear. Stay on that side of the line and I will be with you until the end.
Cross that line and you will lose me forever.
This is who I am. I will show mercy and forgiveness. I will
continue to grow and try to be stronger against those that cause me pain. But I
promise there will be times when I will be a pushover and someone will use me.
It is going to happen. Have patience with me. I’m still just a diamond in the
rough. Look past my rocky outside to find the gem inside that shines like ice
but is still fragile.
Thursday, February 25, 2016
Do you grow anything?
I just learned something recently about growing green onions... Normally I grow them outside in a pot. Water, dirt, air, and sunlight. But now I know there is another way to do it. And it requires only a baggie in the fridge.
Yep, you read that right. I cut the roots off. Then I put those roots into a plastic baggie. I put that baggie into the fridge and left it there for a month or two. When I went to pull that baggie out again, I found they had grown again. Oh the applications I can use this for...Especially since I'm the kind who kills things more than grows them.
So what do you grow? And how do you do it? I, personally, have plans to one day grow roses, lilies, and orchids. And if my thumb will turn green - tomatoes, bell peppers, onions, and maybe strawberries. Good to aspire, right?
Wednesday, February 24, 2016
What price would you pay for your protection?
We are in the age of technology here. Everything is done
with computers, “smart phones”, and the internet. Terms that our grandparents
hadn’t had are household words that even my 7 year old son uses. Apple, iPhone,
the Cloud, autocorrect, Android… And the advancements that come with these
things are phenomenal! We can contact someone around the globe within seconds
rather than sending mail that takes anywhere from a day to several weeks to
arrive to our person in question. Business is affected and growing with
connections being made. We are keeping in touch with those we care about daily
rather than when we have the time to call and ask them what’s new.
It can be hard to keep on the safe side when everything is
available at the touch of a button. And now there’s a new concern to consider.
This one applies strongly to smart phone users, particularly to Apple users. If
you haven’t already heard about the F.B.I. trying to get Apple to give them a “master
key” of sorts to break into locked iPhones, you must be living under a rock. The
outrage is growing. The sides of pro or against are clearly lining up against
each other. But think about this people… common sense might not be common these
days, but just try to understand logic for the next couple of minutes…
But with all these great things, there are great downsides.
Viruses, overloaded updates on people you don’t want to keep up with
constantly, information leaks, stolen identity, cyber-crimes such as hacking, distancing ourselves from others (not staying close to those we love on a personal level), bullying… the list could go on. We are
told to change our passwords often. Don’t give out unnecessary information. Don’t
get addicted to social media – find a balance.
So we have a horrific event that costed way too many lives
in the United States. All because of a terrorist attack. Investigations start
rolling and information starts flowing. An iPhone comes into play. But it’s
locked. And the F.B.I., in their desire to put the pieces in place, decides
they need to access everything in the phone. They could ask Apple to hand over
the data in the iCloud. All they need is a warrant or maybe just a request.
Apple has been cooperative in the situation, so how hard would it be? But that’s
not good enough… They want to get into the phone themselves. A terrorist is most likely not going to store their plans in the iCloud. But they can’t get into the phone, its locked.
They don’t know the technology. They don’t have a key to bypass the encryption. And they don’t
have anyone smart enough to break into for them, apparently. So they want a way
in through the back door. Apple balks at such a thing. They don't have the access past the encryption. Then the F.B.I. does
what Apple said they would do. They don’t want it for just one phone now; they
want to open 9 iPhones. For the sake of American safety, they claim. For the
protection of future lives and the justice desired for those already lost. Now
Apple is really pushing back. But why? Don’t they want to serve and protect as
well? Yes. Of course they do. But think of the implications this can have on
the future. Think of the fallout. Think of the applications this can have for
all iPhone users present and future. This boils down to creating a way for the government
to walk into any iPhone, anywhere, regardless of the system, encryptions,
software. This is a get INTO jail card for Apple products. How so? You can
create this key for one or for 9 phones. You can open up a secured zone for a
brief moment to get what they need. But once they are in… they can go anywhere.
They can do anything. And this key isn’t restricted to just that one device. It’suniversal. Every single iPhone would be open to them. How would such a key be abused? Who’s to stop them from
looking into your device? And would you know about it? Not unless they come
after you. They wouldn’t have to say anything more than, “It’s the safety of
America.” Now sure, you could say that its okay. After all, you don’t have
anything to hide from the government, right? So who cares?! But here’s
something else to consider. How many times has the government been hacked? How
much information on weapons, military, or other government information been
leaked in the past few years? Do you want to risk handing them the keys to your
iPhone where a hacker can steal them? Then your identity is at risk. Think of
the apps on your phone. Banking, shopping, emails, text messages, phone logs…
What could happen to you if someone got that information? Would your life be
the same? No. People were furious when Target was hacked and bank accounts were
affected. I know only too well as I was a Target employee that dealt with irate
customers blaming me personally for something I had absolutely no control over.
What happens when the same occurs to Apple devices because the government gets
hacked? Everyone will blame Apple, right? Is it going to be their fault? No!
They did as asked and the government will be the ones dropping the ball in “protecting”
iPhone users. But this is all hypothetical for now. These are the things that
people are not thinking of for the future. Open your eyes folks! Be mindful of
what reactions could occur with these actions. Its not a simple “one case”
action. Once a key is made, there is no going back. There is only fighting for
your own safety.
Don’t think that Apple will be the only ones targeted for
such. Once Apple crumples and makes such a key, who is to say the government
won’t pursue others such as Android or Microsoft? Why not have a key for every
smart phone on the market? We already have our conversations on Skype being
recorded for government use. Facebook Messenger Apps has access to your text
messages and voice calls as well. Read the specifications one day on what they
require you to allow them access to before you download an app. Or even after
downloading an app. You’d be surprised at how much they access on your phone
that has nothing to do with them. But you give permission blindly. Why? You
just want the app. You don’t think about what comes with it besides the
usefulness it holds to you personally.
It is time to wake up, America. No, it is time for the world
to wake up. Everyone with a hand in technology needs to see that danger lurks
everywhere on the World Wide Web. And if you want to be safe from it, you
better watch what you share, what you click, and who is watching. Know your
rights. Guard your privacy. Don’t take “protection” that costs you your
privacy. It could ruin you in the long run. And most importantly, don’t bury
your head in the sand and pretend that you don’t have any investment in what’s
going on. If you own a device affected or that could be affected, keep up with
what is happening. And plan for whatever outcome may come into play.
Read this letter from Apple about what they say it means if my words aren't enough.
Tuesday, February 23, 2016
Avery Label review via Shoplet.com
I love Shoplet.com! They have so many wonderful things to
choose from when stocking your home or business office. They are the number one
e-tailer for office and business supplies. This is great in the sense that you can do all
your one-stop-shopping at once, saving you time and energy. I know searching
for the cheapest deals is great, but sometimes I just don’t have the time. And
driving from place to place isn’t saving me money when I’m using so much gas.
So I like having multiple options of all my must haves in one central location.
There is also the added bonus of catching deals like free shipping or discounts
randomly when you need it!
Being a brand ambassador with Shoplet lets me have the
chance to try out many types of office products they offer and then pass the word on to you, my
readers, to give you a trusted first-hand account. Word of mouth is typically
one of the best ways to know if a product is worth my time and money. I hope
that my review of the following product is helpful in the same way to you!
Shoplet sent me these cool labels. I can’t tell you how much
I love labels. Easy to use, read and organize everything I have with a simple
label. This year, I’ve been working so hard to clear out unnecessary clutter in
my home and life. Things that I don’t use or need are getting tossed, donated
and sold. The things I do use, I’m organizing. Everything is going in a box or
place where I can find it when I need it. Especially after my move…
I love Avery labels. They have templates you can use on the
website. Each product has a corresponding number that you can put in the search
that allows you the perfect dimensions to create your labels. There is no
guesswork needed. No measuring. Everything is set up and ready to go. You just
need to have your wording in mind to get started. These in particular are the
Avery Easy Align Self-Laminating ID labels. The patent-pending Easy Align
labels are supposed to laminate themselves so that they last longer. You print
the label and seal it with a clear laminate film.
Shoplet.com offers more than just Avery products. They also have cleaning supplies, office furniture and medical supplies.
What sort of uses would you have for a product such as this? Tell me about it in the comments section! And I might just hold a giveaway for a 250 count pack of these if I get enough requests for them... Possibly even throw in some pens from Pilot. Yes, I'm testing to see who actually reads this to the end instead of looking at the pictures!
Never underestimate yourself
I can't tell you how many times I'm reminded of this. Of my own self worth and the value I can offer to others. How many times have I felt worthless? That I didn't have what it takes to make it in the world? Especially in the corporate sales world. It is brutal out there. And no one is looking to be your friend. They are looking to build themselves up. To keep climbing that ladder to the big bucks and fancy living. Or so I've always thought until now.
I've met so many people in my career paths. People from all walks in life that are genuine. People who are looking to improve not only themselves, but others as well. These people give freely of their time, their knowledge, and sometimes their resources to bring better life to those they meet. What is better life? Its being happy. Its doing the things you love. Its being healthy. And some people are naturally good at helping others achieve these things. I'm happy to say I have met so many of them. My godmother, my boss and his wife, a colleague in the business world... the list could go on.
What is one thing these people remind me of? Don't underestimate yourself. Why? Because I am my biggest critic. I put myself down. I tell myself that I can't make it. And I need to be reminded that I can. We can do whatever we set our mind to. We can push ourselves to achieve anything we want. We might need that reminder, that kick in the pants, to get us up when we start to fall. But we can keep at it and we will succeed. My supervisor has a quote hanging at her desk that reminds me daily of what I need to tell myself in order to succeed at work; "Whether you think you can, or you can't, you're right." (Henry Ford)
I'm going to make a conscious effort to live by this saying. I'm going to tell myself that I can. I'm going to make it in sales. I'm going to be the woman, the mother, the daughter, the girlfriend that I want to be. I'm not going to stop until I reach my goals. And even then, I'm going to keep making new goals. Because life doesn't stop after attaining the house, financial freedom, dream living... It just begins in a new chapter with a new dream.
I've met so many people in my career paths. People from all walks in life that are genuine. People who are looking to improve not only themselves, but others as well. These people give freely of their time, their knowledge, and sometimes their resources to bring better life to those they meet. What is better life? Its being happy. Its doing the things you love. Its being healthy. And some people are naturally good at helping others achieve these things. I'm happy to say I have met so many of them. My godmother, my boss and his wife, a colleague in the business world... the list could go on.
What is one thing these people remind me of? Don't underestimate yourself. Why? Because I am my biggest critic. I put myself down. I tell myself that I can't make it. And I need to be reminded that I can. We can do whatever we set our mind to. We can push ourselves to achieve anything we want. We might need that reminder, that kick in the pants, to get us up when we start to fall. But we can keep at it and we will succeed. My supervisor has a quote hanging at her desk that reminds me daily of what I need to tell myself in order to succeed at work; "Whether you think you can, or you can't, you're right." (Henry Ford)
I'm going to make a conscious effort to live by this saying. I'm going to tell myself that I can. I'm going to make it in sales. I'm going to be the woman, the mother, the daughter, the girlfriend that I want to be. I'm not going to stop until I reach my goals. And even then, I'm going to keep making new goals. Because life doesn't stop after attaining the house, financial freedom, dream living... It just begins in a new chapter with a new dream.
Tuesday, February 16, 2016
3 Ingredient Nutella Cookie recipe
I love baking. But some things take up too much of my time.
So I like finding simple recipes. A buddy of mine had sent me this recipe from
an iFunny post.
They are made of 3 ingredients, super quick to make, and taste delicious!
I’ll add in my modifications though. The one from iFunny was a little too dry.
So technically you might need a fourth ingredient – water. You can also stuff these with Oreo cookies for an even better treat.
What you will need:
1 egg
1 cup of flour
1 13 ounce jar of Nutella (1 cup didn't seem enough)
Water as needed
Simply mix all ingredients until you have a good batter.
Water may be needed to help moisten it. These are easy to roll into 1 inch
balls.
Bake at 350 degrees. They should only take 6-8 minutes. Take them out when they are a little moist to make them soft.
The first time I made these, I used the Hershey spread instead.
They make a richer chocolate cookie but come out just as good!
Always keep an eye for the deals. I got mine at Target on sale with a coupon! Sometimes they also have Cartwheel deals. This time around, the coupon and the offer had different sizes.
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